It always amazes me how many people are surrounded by a large group of "friends" and yet they can be so alone. I was having a conversation with a friend of mine and we started to talk about random things, as men often do when they're hanging out. It is amazing how a conversation can go from superficial talk about iPods to a deep, reflective talk about friendships. As my friend and I started to get on the topic of things that people struggle with in their lives, he brought up an interesting point. Many of the people he grew up with (and still hangs out with today) always seem to have it all together. If a topic was brought up for discussion, between guys, there was always someone that would be quick to let everyone know that they didn't deal with situations like that.
I personally don't understand this concept. I have the mindset that there is nothing new under the sun, and I would rather not be alone in something I am struggling through. But whether I understand it or not the problem is still remains. Tons of people walk through life dealing with struggles, and they deal with them alone. People reach out to others for help, but get a quick answer reminding them of how much they screwed up rather than being pointed towards the loving arms of Christ.
You can say "You just have to pray" or "God is sufficient. You don't need to tell anyone else". These statements are true, but there is a problem. God uses people to lift up and encourage people. Many times when someone is judged or shut down by another christian, they automatically feel as though that means God must feel the same way.
So what do we do? Get real! If you see someone who is struggling, don't put them down. LIFT THEM UP! You'll be amazed how great it feels to make others feel good. Get together with close friends and keep one another accountable. Don't be afraid to be honest. Learn your lesson. Don't just stay where you're at. Move out. Use this accountability to keep you focused on God. When we keep your eyes on Christ you'll see victory in your life.